Love problems in estranged couples
Many times we have talked about the number of problems that long distance relationships face . It is precisely that distance that complicates communication and we do not mean that these types of couples cannot speak, it is that a virtual communication is not the same as a face-to-face in which you can observe body language. We get into a detective plan because they have asked us how to know if your partner is unfaithful when you have a long distance relationship .
Infidelity in long distance relationships
Uncertainty about the future hangs over long distance relationships. For example, if one of the two has to change city or even country, but not immediately, that one does not leave everything like that, not even for love. We already know that uncertainty, in addition to being the mother of anxiety, is also the mother of doubts and lack of confidence. The question that always haunts long- distance relationships is what if …?
What if I don’t know him well enough? What if the relationship isn’t strong enough to withstand the distance? What if we can’t be together? What if he changes his mind? What if he’s not doing everything what is possible to come as soon as possible? And the one that can completely change your future as a couple, what if she’s being unfaithful to me?
The truth is that infidelity can be difficult to hide in a partner who lives together, but in the case of long-distance relationships, one person can be unfaithful without the other noticing anything at all . There are also couples in the distance who have an agreement on this matter and who have relaxed what they consider infidelity. But, is this your case? Do you have an open relationship in which you can sleep with other people?
Everything is valid in relationships, whether at a distance or not. Everything is valid as long as the two people agree and are aware of the real situation. If not, it’s still cheating, it’s still cheating on your partner, and it’s still betraying trust.
How to know if your long-distance partner is unfaithful
The problem comes when you suspect that your partner in the distance is being unfaithful because there is no human way to verify it . If it is already difficult to discover an infidelity while living together, the matter can turn into a surreal paranoia that ends with your mental health before with your long distance relationship. So be very careful because almost any sign of infidelity can be invalidated by a good virtual excuse.
They tell us that infidelity in the distance is also noticeable in certain changes in behavior , in which they dress differently, have different hairstyles or have different schedules. But if your partner wants to continue that adventure, he has a better chance of giving you perfectly valid reasons for those changes. You are still in the field of doubts and uncertainty has already enveloped you in its suffocating cloak.
And now is when that uncertainty can turn you into a deluded person or a paranoid person. There is one aspect that can perhaps tip the balance one way or the other. Before you were looking for the way and the moment to communicate between the two of you, but for some time your proposals have been waiting and he is the one who chooses the moment. In case you call him, he either doesn’t answer or tells you that he doesn’t have time now.
The most obvious sign of infidelity , which is never to be separated from your mobile phone, is not valid in long distance relationships. But yes, the rest of the excuses such as that he has stayed to work late or has gone out for a drink with friends. There is really no way you will discover an affair in a long distance relationship but we have a question for you.
Why do you suspect that your partner is unfaithful ? He may be delaying the journey of your next meeting, it may be more difficult to reach him in recent weeks, your conversations may be shorter and no longer deal with your relationship, or you may never make plans for the future. And this is all a bad sign, but it doesn’t necessarily speak of infidelity.
What to do if you think your long-distance partner is unfaithful
Do you trust your partner? Trust is essential in the couple and more when it comes to long distance relationships. Trust, once lost, is very difficult to regain , if not impossible. But sometimes trust is broken not by betrayal, but by suspicion. Regardless of whether it is unfair or not suspicious of your partner, is it worth living in uncertainty?
We assume that if you ask him directly if he is cheating on you, he will answer that of course he is not. At least if you are interested in maintaining this relationship at a distance. So you only play with suspicions, something that can destabilize you to a point you can’t even imagine. And if he doesn’t do much to clarify your doubts either, we repeat: is it worth living in uncertainty?
When these types of unsolvable doubts come to your love life, it is time to rethink your relationship. May suspect infidelity has arisen in your head by your own insecurities or may have seen something that does not fit, that made you hesitate or think that something is wrong. And even if it is up to you, your partner has the obligation to reassure you about it , to take your doubts seriously and to believe you when you tell them that you are having a bad time.
Do not let him throw the ball to your roof and tell you that you are seeing ghosts where there are none and that it is up to you, that your doubts are not his problem. Because maybe your insecurity does not come from an infidelity, but from another relationship problem that you have not yet detected. Is there something wrong with talking about those that concern you?
If you have a partner, in the distance or in the vicinity, who refuses to speak, who does not take your doubts into account and who also washes their hands before the problem saying that it is your thing, the time has come to prioritize your stability emotional and your peace of mind .
How a long distance relationship is broken
At this point, the least of it is if your partner is unfaithful, because the lack of trust you have in him is more important . It is not worth living a relationship at a distance in which you lack the physical comfort of a hug from your partner and in which you have plenty of doubts and mistrust. If you continue like this, anxiety will complicate your life and you will enter an emotional hell. No man, no relationship deserves you to jeopardize your sanity.
That said, how do you break up with your partner if you can’t tell them face to face? We always bet on civilized ruptures and with the maximum possible education, which is why we discard telematic methods. But given the nature of your relationship, which is at a distance, nothing happens to put aside these scruples and break up with your partner on a phone call or video call.
You can also wait for your next meeting to break the relationship , of course, but depending on the distance, the trip, yours or your partner, it can remain in the memory as a traumatic experience. Better to leave it when you are both in your own environment and have the support that everyone needs in a breakup.
