Emotional infidelity hurts as much as physical infidelity
We sail in the stormy waters of infidelity as a couple. In that sea of deceptions, half truths and lies in which you can end up drowning in pain. And what we are asking ourselves is how to overcome an emotional infidelity , that deception that because there is no sexual relationship involved, it seems that it is not considered high treason. And yes it is. Can you overcome an infidelity ?
What is emotional infidelity?
Some are reluctant to consider it infidelity. There has been no sex, so you have not been unfaithful. But none of that. Because in an emotional infidelity what is broken is the same as in a physical infidelity, which is trust with a partner . Deception not only includes lies, but also half truths and the omission of information .
Let’s be clear. Each member of the couple can and should have friends of their own, it is something very healthy to maintain independence as a couple . But a friendship is a friendship and a special person with whom you connect in an almost mystical way is not a friendship. It is an infidelity.
It is emotional infidelity when your partner tells you that he is staying for a drink with his co-workers. And he has not lied to you, because it is true that he has stayed with someone from work, specifically with that colleague with whom he has an intimate relationship on an emotional level. He hasn’t lied to you but he hasn’t told you the truth , why?
The emotional cheater may come up with the most convincing excuses and may even appear to believe them himself. But deep down he knows that, even though there is no sex with the other person, he is being unfaithful . If not, you would not have to lie, you would not have to hide and you would not have to delete WhatsApp chat with your conversations.
How to get over an emotional infidelity
The question is, how do you overcome an emotional infidelity? One of the problems is that we move on indefinite grounds with that unfaithful person clinging like a burning nail to the excuse that there has been no sexual relationship. But the biggest problem is that you no longer trust him . Broken trust, we place ourselves at the same point where we would be if it were a sexual infidelity.
Now you can remove the emotional name from this infidelity and ask yourself if you should forgive an infidelity or not . Is it possible to forgive your unfaithful partner? Is it possible to regain trust in your partner? Is it possible to regain your emotional balance and not become paranoid and suspicious? The answers to these questions are very personal.
On a more civilized level, we can argue that there are two tools at your disposal that can help you overcome that infidelity, emotional or physical.
+Communication: From now on you must have perfect communication with your partner , is there perfection? From now on your partner must open up the channel and be more honest with you than he has ever been with himself. Do you think it will be possible?
+Empathy: Thanks to this honest and sincere communication, you will be able to understand the causes of this emotional infidelity . If there were. If it is that among the causes was that habitual distancing in a couple that leads you to seek understanding and empathy in other arms in the case of emotional infidelity and renewed passion in the case of physical infidelity.