Attentive! These signs could reveal what your partner is hiding from you
It is not easy to discover an infidelity despite having many red flags. The line between paranoid suspicion and evidence that we are being deceived is sometimes not well drawn. And if when you catch your boyfriend in bed with another you can be 100% sure that he is unfaithful, the same does not happen with an emotional infidelity. If you want to know how to detect an emotional infidelity, pay attention to these signs that give them away .
What is emotional infidelity
First you have to make things clear. That there is no sexual contact does not prevent infidelity. We warn you because many unfaithful people hide behind the theory that they have not slept with that person with whom they usually date or with whom they chat every day. They say there is no infidelity if there is no bed involved. And that is not like that.
Emotional infidelity is a close sentimental bond that is established with a person who is not your partner . And can’t you have friends? Yes, you can and should have friends outside of the couple, but there is no reason to hide that friendship. So why do you delete the chats with your coworker? Why have you changed the passwords on your computer? Why are you going to another room to talk on the phone? o Why do you tell your partner that you have stayed to finish some reports when you have actually been having a drink with that person?
Signs that reveal an emotional infidelity
There are some attitudes of your partner that can reveal an emotional infidelity . We always recommend caution in these cases and do not draw hasty conclusions, since some changes in your partner’s behavior may be due to a personal crisis, a period of stress or an evolution in their way of being. But write down.
+Distancing
Has your partner been more distant lately? The vertigo produced by the estrangement of a couple generates both anguish and confusion. You don’t know what happens, but something happens. It may not be an infidelity, but when you try to talk to your partner, he closes in and says that absolutely nothing happens.
+You no longer argue
Although it seems contradictory, the lack of couple discussions can be a sign of emotional infidelity. Your partner is not interested in arguing . First because his head is elsewhere (or in another person), and secondly because the relationship is no longer interesting to him and any discussion is unproductive. Why try to fix something that doesn’t interest you?
+Changes in your routine
Changes in schedules and daily routines are always a red flag in the relationship. Especially if they don’t count on you and they tell you by surprise. Now he goes to the gym at a different time than usual. Or just go to the gym now! Infidelity or desire to lead a healthier life? The answer, friend, is in the air.
+Are you talking about someone else?
At the beginning of an emotional infidelity, when your partner has not yet realized that he is dangerously bonding with another person, he may constantly talk to you about him . He mentions it in his conversations with the natural admiration of someone who knows someone he likes. And that’s not bad. Not yet. The problem comes when he begins to lie , cheat or hide.
+You don’t know his new friends
Changing friends is possible throughout life and does not have to imply infidelity. But if you do n’t meet her new friends and she’s doing her best not to include you in those new plans, she may be doing more than just preserving her much-needed space of her own.
+Has become more critical
Special attention deserves a very typical behavior of emotional infidels that consists of criticizing or complaining about things about which they did not say anything before. Is he claiming his rights as a couple or is he comparing you to the other person?
As you can see, there are as many signs as questions about emotional infidelity . So before you continue to ponder and go crazy thinking that you are a jealous paranoid and insecure, you better talk to your partner . But do not rule out that he denies you everything, that infidelities are to be denied. And if you are not convinced after the talk, go to the most faithful infidelity detector.
The telephone, key in emotional infidelity
If most of the signs of infidelity are relative and may be due to other causes, the same is not the case with the mobile phone. The phone of your partner, without having to invade their privacy, will give you the confirmation you need that your partner is unfaithful .
Because your boyfriend now embarks on long conversations by chat, by WhatsApp or in one of the social networks. Because he is abstracted while he talks and then he does not comment on anything. Because now he doesn’t let go of his mobile even when he goes to the bathroom (especially when he goes to the bathroom), because the telephone has become an extension of his body and because (very important) he never leaves it within your reach .
Putting the phone face down on the table, turning off the sound, answering messages only when you are not in front of you, going to bed later than you to be able to talk with the other person or locking the mobile with a password when you did not before are other signs of alert. And even more so if you are now overzealous with your computer as well.
What does emotional infidelity entail
With all these signs you can sit down with your partner and deal with the situation . If sexual infidelity is often denied, emotional infidelity is denied even more . He may even deny it to you because he himself is not aware that he is being unfaithful. But there you are to make things clear.
We can all meet another person and be dazzled by them. There we can stop that incipient relationship or promote the bond. If the emotional or sentimental bond is promoted, it is useless if there is no sex, because it is infidelity. Emotional infidelity implies a very close relationship between two people that is detrimental to the trust and attention you give to your partner.
Trust is the key in this whole thing . Your boyfriend has found a person who admires him, with whom he feels loved, with whom he is more comfortable. And doesn’t he sleep with her with her so that there is no infidelity? Good, but the relationship is deteriorating because the encounters with the other person are hidden.
