We place ourselves in the starting position trying to make the play go perfect for you. You have been unfaithful but you do not want to end your relationship . Your boyfriend may suspect something or may live in the fig tree and not imagine your unfaithful adventures. Does not matter. Surely you are debating in doubts, should you confess an infidelity ? No never. Never.
The decision to confess an infidelity is easy
We want to make some aspects of infidelity very clear. Infidelity is to be committed, not to confess. Infidelity is not forgiven . Infidelity breaks couple relationships . These propositions that appear to be contradictory are not so contradictory. It is one thing for you to cheat on your boyfriend and another thing for you to have to tell him.
And, as a good cheater, you will know that it is one thing to cheat on your boyfriend and quite another to forgive him for his infidelity, hence the decision to confess your infidelity is quite easy to make. Never ever . Do not confess an infidelity thinking that your guilt will disappear, if you have it, because it will not happen. Do not confess thinking about the importance of honesty as a couple because honesty has been blown up the moment you have been unfaithful.
Many reasons can come to mind to confess that you have been unfaithful. The most common is to think that you owe the truth to your partner, but your partner will suffer with that reality and will lose all the trust they had in you. Actually the only true reason people confess to infidelity is to free themselves from the weight of lies , but that will not make the couple feel better. The couple will feel bad, fatal, because they have been cheated on.
This is what you should be clear about if your little voices in your head point you out as guilty (that they are right) and incite you to confess (they are not right there). Do not confess an infidelity unless your boyfriend catches you in full swing, in which case it would not be a confession either. Accept that you have been unfaithful, accept that you have made a mistake if you are not in an open relationship, and forgive yourself. Because forgiveness in infidelity can only come from oneself.